Sisters, when you’ve done something that you shouldn’t have done (nothing illegal or even I suppose really, really bad, but something like you maybe didn’t give someone all the attention that they deserved), how do you fix it?
All I can say is that I’ve made my attempt tonight, and now I’m waiting….
I guess that’s all I can do, right?
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I'm feeling sort of angry and cynical today. If someone is going to be a brat about not getting enough attention, tell him/her to grow up. If people need something, they need to say so. We are not freakin' mind readers. The best way a person can get his/her needs met is to express what he/she needs. Now, my softer side...Okay, so this person's feelings were hurt. Sometimes it takes a few days to get over it. Maybe a little longer. We all know that I can hold a grudge for a LONG time. However, you cannot allow yourself to feel guilty or responsible, because you are not in charge of that person's feelings. You can apologize for your role in whatever it is, but ultimately, that person has to make a decision whether or not to get over it. And get over it in a healthy way, not bringing it up a month or a year from now, with something like, "Well, there was that one time you did [whatever]." I can't stand when people do that. And, oh yeah (boy I'm on a roll today), don't apologize more than twice. Why? Because the first apology is usually sort of an obligation, but the second one should be the sincere one. If you say it more than twice, it starts to lose its meaning and then sounds fake.
I have typed out and then erased three comments, so let's try this...
To answer your question: Right. And,
Friends understand when you get busy.
A boyfriend will learn and make a mutual effort to give/receive attention. Or not.
Pests with nothing else to do will continue to complain (I can't figure out a better way to say that). Watch out for them.
Also, what Martha said. She's goooood!
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